By doing this one thing, we’re going to save $2,000 this year

Being the sixth of seven kids, I think my parents were burned out of the kid’s activities so I got the shaft–no piano lessons, no dance lessons (except for one year of clogging lessons). Which in retrospect, was really, really great for me.

Instead of music & dance lessons, girl scouts & basketball, I spent afternoons, evenings, & weekends being “creative.” I made one creation after the other, no doubt adding to my mother’s irritation that my messes spread all over the house, including the kitchen.

But you know what?

I experimented, I explored the backyard (we had a lovely, large backyard with a pool, trampoline, swings, a garden, lots of shade & grass) & neighborhood. I read a lot, I played a lot.

Sure, I’ve always been a bit sad that I never learned how to play the piano as a kid...

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it ain’t all bad: summer recap part 2

Marlee, a reader, left a comment which made me think, you know, I need to expound on why the summer was difficult, & why despite this, we did have fun, & it wasn’t all bad. (Thank you Marlee for your comment, & for providing me with the opportunity to think & share more.)

  • (Remember this post?)
    They became strong, able swimmers & I loved watching them learn, progress, & have fun doing it.

  • This was our stay-cation vacation (the lake is only an hour away from where we live). We were sad to forgo our trip to see family in the west, but as part of our get-out-of-debt commitment, it just wasn’t in the budget this year. We stayed in a small cabin at a military retreat which offers subsidized prices for military families.

  • When we move from San Antonio, my kids will have to get used to...
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Light through water: a summer recap

(Read part 2 of this post, here.)

 

She has many wonderful qualities, but empathy is not one of her stronger traits.

Sometime this summer we were having a conversation over the phone.

“This summer has been so hard,” I said.

I then continued to give her a list of things that were hard. Among the top of the list:

  • taking care of 5 (five!) kids all day long, every day
  • staying on top of housework (impossible–see previous point)
  • needing patience but seeming to always run out at about 9 in the morning, which is a rather depressing way to begin the day.

I don’t even remember what my mom’s response was, other than, I know it was devoid of much sympathy.

You see, my mother comes from a long line of pioneer-stock women–the hardy, no-nonsense, let’s-find-solutions type.

Five kids? That’s...

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